CANCER NEW MOON THURS. JULY 19, 2012

The New Moon in Cancer is a good time to do some emotional housecleaning and to notice your emotional state during the day.  After all Cancer is the sign ruled by the Moon, and her keywords are "I Feel".  Mercury is retrograde now (from 7/14 to 8/8 2012), so our collective mind set might be focused on the past, then along comes the most emotional New Moon of the year and I'd be willing to bet that the emotions that come up (for most of us) is based on situations that happened a long time ago.  And the consistent replaying of past emotional dramas or traumas can recreate the same feelings that we had when the event first took place.

"GET OVER IT"

It might not seem like a nice thing to say, but when someone tries to tell me about something that happened years ago, I've found myself first checking with them about the timing "when did this happen?" and then my favorite phrase is "Get Over It".  That statement serves to bring the person back to the present and reminds them that they've been holding on to hurts or disappointments for far too long.  I go on to explain that holding on to resentment is not good for their health and that the present moment is really all we have.  Sometimes the person will stubbornly keep on talking about how "he" or "she" did them wrong, and that usually follows with "and they always do that", and then " she'll never change".  But in fact "she'll never change or "he'll never change" is really saying "I'm not going to change". And therein lies the rub. The only person that we can change is ourselves because we can't change the consciousness of other people, nor should we try to change them. People will change when they are ready to accept a new paradigm for their life and that usually happens when they receive a wake up call, a dramatic event or some unsuspected trauma that helps them seek change.  People will change how they treat you when you react differently to them. When you detach from the need to control the situation or the person the change will come.  When you bypass the temptation to argue or to engage in meaningless dialogue "he said, she said",  and when you stay cool, calm and collected when it seems the other person is trying to attack you. 

EMOTIONAL HOUSECLEANING

So on this New Moon in Cancer, do yourself a favor and release and let go of negative emotions, i.e. sadness, guilt, resentment, anger and check how many times during the day your feelings and emotions go there. You can stop the habit of emotional hoarding, by sifting through them and saying to yourself "I release you, I loose you, I set you free". Some people do a ritual where they imagine the negative emotion leaving the body and flying towards the sun to be burned up by the sun's powerful rays.  You can also write down the emotion that you want to clean out of your consciousness and physically burn it in a burning pot or frying pan.  Another way to change the energy is by doing something that makes you feel good.  Listen to some upbeat music with positive lyrics or watch a feel good movie, you know, the one with the happy ending.  Or call up a friend who lifts your spirits, or take a long walk or do yoga or tai chi, or work the body out with exercise.  Above all take responsibility for your feelings and embrace joy and happiness for the good things you have in your life right now.  Make sure that the words you say after "I Feel" are positive.  You may have to fake it until it becomes true, but do it anyway..."I feel good, I feel healthy, I feel prosperous, " I feel grateful".  No matter what the circumstances are in your life right now, stay in the present moment and deliberately focus on happiness and joy.  If you can do this for one day, it might just become a habit that will attract positive people and events in your life for a long time to come.  Celebrate your life!  Happy Birthday dear Anna, the most positive and balanced Cancerian I know.